Do You Reveal Your Friends' Secrets to Your Spouse?
You and your spouse are lying in bed as you discuss the adventures of the day. You casually mention to your partner that your best friend Michelle is buried in debt. Have you ever repeated to your lover what a friend or family member has specifically asked that you not to?
Are You Divulging Too Much Information?
As innocent as it may appear the chit-chat between you and your significant other can harm the relationship that you have with friends.
For instance, Your friend ‘Michelle’ confides in you about her financial woes she asks you not to mention it to anyone because she is embarrassed, you give her your word. Later that evening you bring it up with your boyfriend Peter and swear him to secrecy. He keeps his mouth closed until that social gathering where he’s had a few too many and he brings up her dilemma. Guess what, she is not going to be upset with Peter.
We hear it all the time, “I talk to my spouse about everything.” It is not a problem as long as you are discussing matters that concern you or the both of you. Being best friends with your significant other does not mean that you have to compromise the privacy of friends and loved ones. He or she is not entitled to know what’s going on in the personal lives of your companions.
Consider this, would you like your bff to reveal your secrets to someone you may not know that well?
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