Judging Your Kid's Friends
For months your son has been talking about his new best friend at his preschool. You arrange a play date for them over a school break. As you are driving up the driveway you are shocked to see a totally naked preschooler jumping on the outdoor trampoline, in the dead of winter.
Your nine year-old is bringing home a friend on the school bus. When you meet them at the bus, the friend has an obvious wet spot in the front of his pants. Isn’t he too old to be having wetting accidents?
Your son never stops talking about the high school varsity goalie and how awesome he is. You notice the coach has all the players over in a practice field warming up but the starting goalie is sitting up in the stands talking to anyone and everyone who’ll listen. Why does the coach allow the goalie to start every game when it is obvious that he’s not a team player?
Every time you go into the school to volunteer you see the same child either sitting by himself at the discipline table in the cafeteria or sitting in the office waiting to see the vice principal in charge of discipline.
Along with a small group of teenagers, you daughter invites a boy who acts like he’s lived on the streets all his life. The way he talks, the way he dresses, the way he carries himself all reflect a heavy gang influence.
What do you do when these are the very children and teenagers your children gravitate toward?
All the above children are biologically mine or are my children's friends. So when my children bring home friends who alarm me, I hold off judgment. My children have proven to me they know and follow my rules in and outside of my house, Furthermore, they seem to have a knack for seeing past appearances and seeing the heart of the individual.
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